projection

​ ​**__ALL ABOUT PROJECTION!__ ** //a defense mechanism where you accuse someone of acting the way you feel; A way of hiding your true feelings by placing them on another person. A very common unconscious method used by many to cope with stress. //

Unpleasant feelings and thoughts are sometimes hard to accept, especially if they don't fit our own image of who we want to be or who we ought to be. Anger, hatred, rage, jealousy, fear, and many other emotions can be hard to incorporate into our own self-image. We don't like to see ourselves as angry, fearful, or bitter people, so we are often tempted to disown those feelings. One way of disowning thoughts and feelings is to project them onto other people. We convince ourselves that those unpleasant thoughts and feelings are coming from someone else and not from us.

For example, if we are angry at a spouse but are too uncomfortable with the feeling to admit it, we may accuse our spouse of being angry rather than owning the feeling ourselves. The difficulty with projecting our feelings and thoughts onto others is that this practice causes conflict in our relationships and detracts from the authenticity of our way of being. Persons who are addicted to drugs or alcohol often use projection as one of many ways of avoiding true feelings, but the way to recovery is recognizing the painful feelings and learning to own them for what they are.

//*Another good example would be a mom who always wanted to be Miss USA had never won, so she forces her own daughter to partake in many beauty contests; ////as very well illustrated in the photo above. //